Dating fearful women
So you stay close and observe her in order to not let your chance pass by. In more practical terms: A guy who tells a woman he just met, “I want to take you home tonight,” is probably an asshole, but he is an asshole she knows about and can decide to stay clear from – or not.
A guy who follows her around all night like the main character from Assassin’s Creed just to approach her with, “I noticed you at the party.
I realize that a lot of guys have intense anxiety around showing intent.
Putting your cards on the table can be scary – for men women, by the way.
Some of them stumble over their words and have shifty eyes. You’re also aware that under the right circumstances, even though such men are reviled, and even though there are laws to protect you, some of these men would rape you.
At first, many guys don’t even know what is going on in their mind. Practice becoming aware of your thoughts emotions and express them verbally.
But if you decide against doing something about it, then you also decide against constantly looking over and against searching her on Facebook.
Either act on your attraction by showing intent or leave it be altogether.
Our friend Howie Reith explains the phenomenon beautifully in his brilliant book The Hot Guyde: Imagine you’re in a world filled with men, but not the men you’re used to.
Every man in this world is a seven-foot-tall, 270-pound linebacker.
The main reason men trigger this uncomfortable feeling in women is by behaving incongruently. You want to get to know her but are too shy to talk to her right away.